Self-Esteem is the measure of how you feel about yourself based on your results, actions, behavior as well as on people’s opinion of you. More specifically, it’s a measure of your impressions of how you see yourself, how others see you and how you see others seeing you.
Self-esteem is predominantly built upon sources outside of yourself that you essentially have no personal control over. Yes it is based on the thoughts and feelings you have related to your results, behavior and performance. In fact, self-esteem is built upon the value derived from doing the things that get you your desired outcomes. But it’s more than just “doing”, it’s rather how you feel about yourself at every moment based on your actions. And how you feel about yourself is heavily influenced by how you feel you’re faring compared to others. In other words, your self-esteem is derived from what you think others “think” of you based on your results and actions.
When you have a negative view of yourself you are seen as having low self-esteem. This often manifests in pessimism and a lack of confidence. On the other hand, when you have a positive view of yourself you are seen as having high self-esteem. This often manifests in a confident disposition, self-acceptance and optimism.
Given all this, it’s quite clear that self-esteem is not something that comes from within, but rather something that comes from outside of ourselves that influences how we feel at any given moment in time. And yet this has nothing to do with reality, but rather it’s purely based on one’s perspective and interpretation of reality. Therefore self-esteem is fickle and can shift with the changing winds. However, this isn’t true for those people who have a high level of self-worth. A high level of self-worth naturally enhances your levels of self-esteem providing you with the confidence you need to follow through with your chosen decisions and actions.
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