Your Mental State essentially comes down to where and how you focus your attention. You can for instance focus on the things you want or you can alternatively choose to focus on the things you don’t want.
Optimistic people tend to focus on the things they want and on the things that are working for them, while pessimistic people tend to focus on the things they don’t want or on the things that aren’t working for them.
What you focus on and how you focus on things is very important because it influences your emotional state. For instance, let’s say you experience a setback of some sort. Here you can either choose to focus on the horrible consequences that may result, or you can choose instead to focus on a solution to help you work through your problem. Where you give your attention will then of course determine how you feel about the situation as well as how you feel about yourself within this situation.
However, it’s not just about what you focus on that matters. How you focus on things also makes a difference. This is of course where submodalities come into play. Submodalities can for instance affect how associated or disassociated you are to a particular experience. As such they directly influence the level and intensity of your emotional experience.
We all have habitual ways of focusing on things. For instance, whenever you are feeling disappointed, that emotion is a direct result of how you have chosen to focus on a particular situation. On the other hand, whenever you are feeling motivated, that is also the result of how you have chosen to mentally focus upon something. Therefore, how you focus on things affects how you feel about those things. As such, changing your focus also changes how you feel and emotionalize the experience.
Given this, we all therefore have habitual states we indulge in that are a direct result of our mental focus and attention. Some of these states are of an empowering nature, while others are of a limiting and unhelpful nature. Each of these states we experience are the direct result of a specific set of steps we have followed. These steps are called recipes, or State Recipes. These recipes manifest as an instructional guides that send a direct command to your nervous system to experience a certain kind of emotion.
For instance, in order to feel disappointed about something you possibly first look at a situation in a very specific way (this includes how you focus, where you focus and how long you focus for), then you think something critical to yourself, then you outwardly blame and complain, and finally you sit down in a slouched position with your hands propping up your head in disappointment. These four steps make up your state recipe for disappointment, and the chances are that you repeat this recipe every single time something doesn’t go your way, and of course the resulting emotion you experience is disappointment.
In order to break this cycle of disappointment, you must consciously alter your recipe for feeling disappointed. You can successfully do this by working on altering each one of the four steps in the process that make up your state recipe for disappointment. For instance, choose to focus differently on the situation at hand (shift submodalities), then think about something you’re grateful for, then ask yourself: What’s the opportunity here? And finally, move your body vigorously and with determination sending instructions to your nervous system that you will not allow this situation to get to you.
That is an example of how you can potentially shift your state recipe for disappointment to help turn disappointment into empowerment.